Shiva Lingam
Shiva Lingam
Shiva Lingam
AKA Narmada Lingam, Banalinga, Shiva Stone or Lingam Stone
The Sacred Egg-Shaped Stone of Balance, Creation and Regeneration
A Note from Enchantress
Every crystal in this library has been researched with care to bring together geology, history, craftsmanship and the traditional stories that have surrounded these remarkable minerals for generations.
Science helps us understand how they formed.
History tells us how people have cherished them.
Tradition shares the meanings many have found in them.
We believe each perspective has something valuable to offer.
Whether you’re here to learn, collect, decorate your home, choose a meaningful gift or simply satisfy your curiosity, you’re warmly welcome.
At a Glance
| Customer Name | Shiva Lingam |
| Also Known As | Narmada Lingam • Banalinga • Bana Lingam • Shiva Stone • Lingam Stone |
| Name Note | Shiva Lingam stones are sacred stones associated with Lord Shiva in Hindu tradition. They are especially connected with the Narmada River in India and should be approached with respect for their cultural and spiritual significance. |
| Material Type | Naturally rounded river stone, commonly described as silica-rich material such as chalcedony, jasper or quartz-rich stone, though exact composition may vary |
| Mineral Group | Variable; commonly silica-rich material |
| Chemical Formula | Variable depending on composition; silica-rich examples are primarily SiO₂ — Silicon Dioxide |
| Crystal System | Variable; silica-rich chalcedony and jasper are microcrystalline quartz |
| Mohs Hardness | Variable, often approximately 6.5–7 when silica-rich |
| Typical Colours | Cream • Tan • Brown • Red-Brown • Grey • Beige • Rust • Maroon • Natural banding or markings |
| Transparency | Opaque |
| Lustre | Smooth, waxy, earthy to softly polished |
| Traditional Source | Narmada River, India |
| Symbolism | Balance of masculine and feminine energies, creation, fertility, regeneration, wholeness, devotion and spiritual union |
| Shape Meaning | The egg-like or phallic form is often associated with masculine creative energy, while the natural markings are traditionally interpreted by some as feminine or Yoni energy, bringing both forces into symbolic balance. |
| Feng Shui / Relationship Use | In some modern Feng Shui-inspired and spiritual practices, Shiva Lingam stones are used symbolically to support relationship harmony, marriage strengthening, balance and unity. |
| Suitable for Jewellery | Usually used as palm stones, altar stones, meditation pieces or display stones. Smaller pieces may be drilled, wrapped or set into jewellery, though the sacred meaning should be considered respectfully. |
| Cleaning & Preservation | Wipe with a soft dry cloth or clean briefly with lukewarm water and a fragrance-free soap made with naturally occurring surfactants. Dry thoroughly. Avoid harsh chemicals, acids, ultrasonic cleaners and steam cleaning. |
| Food & Drink Contact | Not recommended for crystal-infused drinking water, elixirs or food contact. Natural stones may contain inclusions, iron staining, polishing compounds or associated minerals. |
| Sunlight | Stable under normal display conditions. Avoid prolonged harsh sunlight to preserve polish and surface finish. |
| Health & Safety | Safe to handle and display under normal conditions. Do not ingest. Dust from cutting, drilling, grinding or polishing should not be inhaled. |
| Common Treatments | Usually naturally shaped by river action and then hand-polished. Some may be artificially shaped, polished, dyed, coated or misrepresented in the wider market. Sourcing and treatment information should be disclosed where known. |
From Enchantress
Shiva Lingam is one of those stones that asks to be approached with reverence. Not fear, not stiffness, not that overly serious voice people sometimes use when they are trying very hard to sound spiritual, but genuine respect. It carries a living cultural and spiritual meaning for many people, especially within Hindu tradition, where the Lingam is associated with Lord Shiva, creation, transformation, devotion and divine energy.
Visually, it is easy to understand why these stones have become so meaningful. They are smooth, egg-shaped or elongated, shaped by river movement and polished by hand, with natural earthy markings that seem to move across the surface like symbols. The form itself carries meaning. The elongated, phallic shape is often understood as masculine creative energy, while the natural markings are associated by some traditions and modern interpretations with the feminine Yoni energy. Together, they symbolise balance, union, fertility, creation and regeneration.
I think that is what makes Shiva Lingam so powerful as a symbolic stone. It is not only about masculine energy or feminine energy. It is about the relationship between them. The meeting point. The balance. The idea that creation needs both force and receptivity, stillness and movement, form and flow.
In modern crystal traditions, Shiva Lingam is often chosen for fertility symbolism, relationship strengthening, marriage harmony, vitality and renewal. In some Feng Shui-inspired practices, it may be placed with intention to support balance within relationships or to strengthen the energy of partnership. I would always want to say that gently, because no stone replaces communication, kindness, respect or doing the dishes without being asked. But as a symbol, Shiva Lingam carries a beautiful reminder that relationships thrive when energies are honoured, balanced and held with care.
To me, Shiva Lingam feels like a stone of wholeness. It reminds us that creation is not always dramatic. Sometimes it is the quiet regeneration of a relationship, the rebuilding of trust, the return of warmth, the strengthening of devotion, or the decision to meet life again with both courage and openness.
Is Shiva Lingam Right for You?
Shiva Lingam may appeal to those who are drawn to stones with deep symbolism, tactile beauty and a strong sense of balance.
It is especially loved as a palm stone, altar stone, meditation piece or meaningful display object. Unlike faceted gemstones or sparkling crystals, its beauty is quieter. It lives in shape, pattern, touch, cultural story and symbolic meaning.
You may appreciate Shiva Lingam if you are drawn to:
• Sacred egg-shaped stones
• Stones connected with fertility, creation and regeneration
• Symbolism of masculine and feminine balance
• Earthy cream, tan, brown, grey and red-brown markings
• Meditation or altar pieces
• Relationship harmony symbolism
• Feng Shui-inspired relationship and marriage strengthening practices
• Natural forms shaped by water, time and hand-polishing
• Stones that invite respectful handling and reflection
Shiva Lingam is not just a decorative stone. It carries spiritual meaning for many people, especially within Hindu traditions. It is best chosen with respect, curiosity and care.
Discover Shiva Lingam
Shiva Lingam stones are smooth, oval or elongated stones traditionally associated with the Narmada River in India. They are often naturally shaped by river movement and then polished to reveal their smooth surface and distinctive earthy markings.
The word Lingam has deep spiritual significance in Hindu tradition and is associated with Lord Shiva. It is commonly understood as a sacred symbol of divine creative energy, transformation, cosmic balance and the union of masculine and feminine principles.
The shape is central to the meaning.
The smooth elongated or egg-like form is often interpreted as masculine, active or phallic energy. The natural markings found across the stone are sometimes understood as feminine or Yoni energy. Together, these features represent sacred union, fertility, creation and regeneration.
In modern crystal traditions, Shiva Lingam stones are often used as symbols of balance, vitality, wholeness, fertility, relationship strengthening and spiritual union. They may also be used in Feng Shui-inspired practices to support harmony within marriage and partnership, especially when placed with clear intention in a relationship or bedroom space.
Geologically, Shiva Lingam stones are often described as silica-rich river stones, commonly associated with chalcedony, jasper, quartz-rich material or other naturally rounded stone types. Because exact composition can vary, they are best described honestly as natural river stones traditionally associated with the Narmada River, rather than treated as a single formal mineral species.
The Story Written by the Earth
Shiva Lingam stones are shaped by water, movement and time.
Their rounded form comes from natural river action. Stones carried, turned and smoothed by water gradually lose sharp edges and become oval, elongated or egg-like. Later, many Shiva Lingam stones are polished by hand to enhance their smoothness and reveal their markings more clearly.
Their colours often come from natural mineral variation, iron staining, silica-rich material and earthy inclusions. Cream, tan, brown, red-brown, grey and rust tones may appear in bands, patches, streaks or flowing patterns across the surface.
This gives each stone a very individual presence.
Some are softly marked.
Some are dramatic.
Some feel almost balanced in their patterning.
Others are wonderfully irregular and natural.
The geological story is one of erosion, movement, rounding and polish. The symbolic story is one of creation, union and regeneration. Together, they create a stone that feels both ancient and alive.
A stone shaped by water, held by earth, and honoured through meaning.
Why the Shape and Markings Matter
The shape of Shiva Lingam is not incidental. It is central to its symbolism.
The elongated, egg-like form is often associated with masculine creative energy, life force and the phallic principle. The natural markings across the stone are understood by some traditions and modern spiritual interpretations as representing feminine or Yoni energy.
Together, the form and markings symbolise balance.
Masculine and feminine.
Creation and receptivity.
Movement and stillness.
Action and nurture.
Seed and womb.
Life force and regeneration.
This is why Shiva Lingam is so often associated with fertility, creation, spiritual union, relationship harmony and wholeness. It is not simply a stone of one energy. It is a stone of energies meeting.
In relationship symbolism, this can represent the strengthening of partnership, the balancing of differences and the renewal of devotion. In Feng Shui-inspired practices, Shiva Lingam may be used with intention to support marriage, intimacy, unity and balanced relationship energy.
As always, these meanings are symbolic and traditional rather than guaranteed outcomes. A stone can be a meaningful support, reminder or ritual object, but relationships still need honesty, kindness, patience and actual conversation. Preferably before someone is already furious about the dishwasher.
A Stone with Many Names
Shiva Lingam stones may be known by several names.
Shiva Lingam is the most recognised name in both spiritual and crystal contexts.
Narmada Lingam refers to the traditional connection with the Narmada River in India.
Banalinga or Bana Lingam is another traditional term associated with naturally occurring sacred Lingam stones, especially those connected with the Narmada River.
Shiva Stone or Lingam Stone may be used in the crystal trade, though these names are less precise.
At Enchantress Collective, we use Shiva Lingam as the customer-facing name because it is widely recognised, while also including Narmada Lingam and Banalinga to honour the traditional context.
Cultural and Spiritual Significance
Shiva Lingam stones should be described with cultural respect.
In Hindu tradition, the Lingam is a sacred symbol connected with Lord Shiva, one of the principal deities in Hinduism. It is associated with divine creative power, transformation, consciousness, cosmic balance and the union of energies. In many temples, the Shiva Lingam is worshipped with offerings, ritual bathing, flowers, prayers and devotion.
This matters.
When a sacred object enters the crystal and home décor world, it is easy for its meaning to be flattened into a few convenient keywords. At Enchantress Collective, we should not do that. We can offer the stone to customers who appreciate its beauty and symbolism, but we should also clearly acknowledge that it carries living religious meaning.
A respectful approach might be:
• Do not place it casually on the floor.
• Do not use it as a novelty object.
• Handle it with clean hands and mindful intention.
• Learn about its cultural origin.
• Display it in a clean, respectful place.
• Avoid reducing its meaning to simplified spiritual trends.
• Remember that it is sacred to many people.
Respect does not make the product description heavy.
It makes it honest.
Feng Shui and Relationship Symbolism
In some modern Feng Shui-inspired and spiritual practices, Shiva Lingam stones are used as symbols of relationship harmony, marriage strengthening, fertility, balance and unity.
Because the stone symbolically holds both masculine and feminine energies, it may be placed with intention in a relationship area, bedroom, meditation space or altar setting to represent partnership, devotion and mutual renewal.
For couples, Shiva Lingam may symbolise:
• Balance within the relationship
• Strengthening of marriage or partnership
• Fertility and creation symbolism
• Renewed intimacy and devotion
• Harmonising masculine and feminine energies
• Regeneration after difficulty
• Unity without loss of individuality
This should be understood as symbolic support, not a promise or cure. The stone does not do the emotional work for us, which is probably for the best, because most stones are very quiet during difficult conversations.
Instead, Shiva Lingam may serve as a physical reminder of balance, respect, tenderness and the choice to keep creating the relationship with care.
Around the World
Shiva Lingam stones are traditionally associated with India, especially the Narmada River, one of India’s most sacred rivers.
The Narmada River has deep religious significance, and stones found in or associated with the river may be gathered, shaped by natural water movement and polished. In the crystal trade, Shiva Lingams are often described as coming from this region, though exact source information may vary by supplier.
Because of their sacred association, sourcing matters. When possible, supplier information should be retained, especially around origin, collection and whether the stones are naturally shaped or heavily worked.
Outside India, Shiva Lingam stones are widely sold in crystal shops and spiritual stores around the world as meditation stones, altar stones, relationship stones and symbolic pieces.
But their origin story remains important.
They are not just “brown oval stones.”
They are stones tied to river, devotion, creation, culture and tradition.
Nature’s Signature
Every Shiva Lingam stone is unique.
Colour, shape, markings, polish, size and pattern will vary from piece to piece. Some may be pale cream with soft reddish markings. Others may be deep brown, grey, rust, tan or maroon. Markings may appear as bands, patches, streaks or natural flowing patterns.
Natural characteristics may include:
• Earthy colour variation
• Iron-rich markings
• Banding or streaking
• Smooth river-worn surfaces
• Natural pits or tiny surface marks
• Polish variation
• Slight asymmetry
• Matrix or mineral inclusions
• Unique shape and weight
These are not imperfections.
They are nature’s signature.
A Shiva Lingam stone does not need to be perfectly symmetrical to be meaningful. In fact, the slight variations often make the piece feel more alive, more grounded and more connected to the river that shaped it.
Through Human Eyes
Humans have always found meaning in stones shaped by rivers.
There is something deeply moving about holding a stone that has been rounded by water over time. It carries the feeling of movement, patience and surrender. It has been pushed, turned, carried, smoothed and reshaped, yet it remains whole.
Shiva Lingam adds another layer to that human response because of its sacred meaning. It is a symbol of divine presence and creative energy in Hindu tradition, and its shape has inspired spiritual reflection for generations.
In modern crystal traditions, Shiva Lingam is often associated with balance, transformation, grounding, fertility, vitality, regeneration, kundalini energy, relationship harmony and the union of masculine and feminine energies.
At Enchantress Collective, we present these associations as traditional, cultural and modern symbolic meanings, not scientific claims. We honour the beauty of the stone without claiming ownership over a tradition that is much larger than us.
That is important.
Curiosity should always walk beside respect.
Traditionally Associated With
Across Hindu tradition and modern crystal symbolism, Shiva Lingam stones are often associated with:
• Lord Shiva
• Divine creative energy
• Fertility
• Creation
• Regeneration
• Balance of masculine and feminine energies
• Sacred union
• Relationship harmony
• Marriage strengthening
• Transformation
• Wholeness
• Grounding
• Devotion
• Vitality
• Life force
• Renewal
• Spiritual strength
• Inner stability
These meanings come from a combination of Hindu religious tradition, cultural symbolism, Feng Shui-inspired practice and modern crystal interpretation. They should be shared respectfully and never presented as medical, scientific or guaranteed outcomes.
Collector’s Eye
Collectors and crystal lovers appreciate Shiva Lingam stones for shape, pattern, polish, feel and cultural story.
When choosing Shiva Lingam, look for:
• Smooth polish
• Pleasing egg-like or elongated shape
• Natural earthy markings
• Balanced form
• Comfortable feel in the hand
• Attractive colour contrast
• Minimal chips or cracks
• Clear supplier information where available
• Respectful sourcing claims
• A piece that feels meaningful to you
Some people prefer symmetrical pieces with dramatic red-brown markings. Others love softer, more natural-looking stones with subtle bands and earthy tones.
The best Shiva Lingam is not necessarily the most perfect one.
It is the one that feels grounded, respectful and right in your hand.
Rarity & Collectability
Shiva Lingam stones are available in the crystal trade, but not all are equal in quality, symbolism or sourcing clarity.
More collectible pieces may have:
• Strong natural patterning
• Smooth hand polish
• Balanced traditional shape
• Comfortable weight
• Attractive cream, tan, brown or rust markings
• Clear Narmada River association
• Respectful supplier information
• Minimal damage
• Natural character without looking overly artificial
The most meaningful value of Shiva Lingam is not only geological rarity. It is cultural significance, tactile beauty, symbolic balance and the relationship between stone, river and tradition.
Choosing Your Shiva Lingam
Choosing Shiva Lingam is a personal and reflective process.
Begin by noticing how the stone feels in your hand. These stones are often chosen as palm stones, meditation pieces or altar stones, so the tactile quality matters. Does it feel comfortable? Grounding? Smooth? Steady?
Then look at the markings. Do you prefer soft cream and tan patterns, stronger red-brown bands, grey tones, rust-coloured streaks or a more earthy natural look?
If choosing for relationship symbolism, you may be drawn to a piece that feels balanced in shape and pattern. Some people like to place Shiva Lingam stones in a relationship area, bedroom or shared altar space as a reminder of harmony, unity, fertility, renewal or devotion.
If choosing for display, consider where it will be placed. Because Shiva Lingam carries sacred meaning, it is best displayed in a clean, respectful space rather than treated as casual décor.
If choosing for spiritual or symbolic use, take time to learn about its cultural origin and significance. A little knowledge is part of respect.
Choose the piece that invites stillness rather than impulse.
Caring for Shiva Lingam
Shiva Lingam stones are generally durable when silica-rich, but they should still be treated with respect and care.
To preserve your Shiva Lingam:
• Wipe gently with a soft dry cloth after handling.
• Clean briefly with lukewarm water if needed.
• Use a fragrance-free soap made with naturally occurring surfactants to avoid residue.
• Rinse briefly and dry thoroughly with a soft microfibre cloth.
• Avoid prolonged soaking.
• Avoid ultrasonic cleaners.
• Avoid steam cleaners.
• Avoid harsh chemicals, bleach, acids and abrasive cleaners.
• Avoid saltwater and salt cleansing, especially if composition is uncertain.
• Avoid dropping onto hard surfaces.
• Store or display in a clean, respectful place.
• Keep away from perfumes, cleaning sprays and household chemicals.
• Avoid prolonged harsh sunlight and high heat to preserve polish and surface finish.
For energetic cleansing, choose gentle methods such as moonlight, sound, smoke cleansing where culturally appropriate, placing near Selenite, or simply wiping the stone carefully while setting an intention of respect and gratitude.
Because Shiva Lingam is sacred to many people, care is not only physical. It is also about mindful handling.
Health & Safety
Shiva Lingam stones are safe to handle and display under normal conditions.
Do not ingest.
Do not use for crystal-infused drinking water, elixirs or food contact. Natural stones may contain inclusions, iron staining, polishing compounds, treatments, associated minerals or surface residues.
When Shiva Lingam stones or similar silica-rich materials are cut, drilled, sanded, carved or polished, mineral dust may be produced. This dust should not be inhaled. Professional lapidaries use water-fed equipment, effective dust extraction and appropriate respiratory protection when working with stone.
Keep small stones away from young children and pets due to choking risk.
Crystal Correspondences
• Chakras: Root Chakra, Sacral Chakra, Solar Plexus Chakra, Crown Chakra
• Zodiac Signs: Scorpio, Capricorn, Taurus, Aries
• Moon Phase: New Moon, Full Moon, Waning Moon
• Element: Earth and Water, with Fire associations through Shiva symbolism
• Traditional Themes: Balance, fertility, creation, regeneration, sacred union, masculine and feminine energy, relationship harmony, marriage strengthening, devotion, vitality, wholeness
• Best For: Meditation, altar display, relationship symbolism, fertility symbolism, grounding practices, mindful reflection, Feng Shui-inspired harmony, respectful spiritual spaces, meaningful gifts for those who understand its significance
Important Information
Traditional Crystal Symbolism
Throughout history, people from many different cultures have attributed symbolic, spiritual and metaphysical meanings to stones, crystals, gemstones and sacred objects. Shiva Lingam stones carry particular significance because of their association with Hindu tradition and Lord Shiva.
At Enchantress Collective, we share these associations with respect and care.
However, the modern crystal meanings are offered as part of the rich ongoing conversation surrounding crystals, minerals and personal symbolism, rather than as scientifically established fact.
Crystal uses are not medically or scientifically proven and should be used supportively alongside professional medical, psychological or healthcare advice and treatment.
Cultural Respect
Shiva Lingam is not simply a decorative crystal name.
The Lingam is a sacred symbol in Hindu tradition, associated with Lord Shiva, divine creative energy, worship, transformation and cosmic balance. For many people, it carries living religious meaning.
We encourage customers to approach Shiva Lingam stones respectfully. Learn about their origin, handle them mindfully, and display them in a clean and thoughtful place.
At Enchantress Collective, we believe beauty and meaning should be offered with humility, not appropriation.
Name Note / Alternate Names
Shiva Lingam may also be known as Narmada Lingam, Banalinga, Bana Lingam, Shiva Stone or Lingam Stone.
These names may refer to naturally rounded sacred stones traditionally associated with the Narmada River in India. The name and symbolism are culturally significant and should be used respectfully.
Symbolism of Shape and Markings
The egg-like or elongated form of Shiva Lingam is traditionally associated with masculine creative energy and life force. The natural markings across the stone are understood by some traditions and modern spiritual interpretations as feminine or Yoni energy.
Together, these features symbolise balance, union, fertility, creation and regeneration.
In some modern Feng Shui-inspired practices, Shiva Lingam stones are also used symbolically for relationship harmony, marriage strengthening and balanced partnership energy.
These associations are offered as symbolic, cultural and spiritual meanings rather than scientific or guaranteed outcomes.
Natural Variation
Photographs are representative of the quality and style you can expect.
Every Shiva Lingam stone is unique.
Shape, size, colour, markings, polish, pattern and surface texture will vary from piece to piece. Some stones may be cream, tan, brown, grey, rust, red-brown or maroon. Markings may appear as bands, patches, streaks or natural flowing patterns.
Natural pits, tiny surface marks, asymmetry, iron staining, polish variation and colour changes may occur.
These natural characteristics are not imperfections.
They are nature’s signature.
Treatments & Disclosure
Shiva Lingam stones are commonly naturally rounded by river action and then hand-polished.
Some stones in the wider market may be artificially shaped, polished, dyed, coated, filled or misrepresented. Treatment, polishing and source information should be disclosed where known.
At Enchantress Collective, we value honesty and clear information. Where treatment, supplier or locality information is known, it should always be disclosed. Where it cannot be confirmed through every stage of the supply chain, we avoid making unrealistic claims and instead share what we know with care and transparency.
Ethical Sourcing
At Enchantress Collective, we choose crystals and stones with intention, respect and appreciation for the natural world and the cultures connected with them.
Our Shiva Lingam stones are selected for shape, markings, polish, character, cultural significance and overall presence. We prioritise trusted suppliers who align with our values of thoughtful sourcing, fair dealing and respectful handling of natural materials.
Because Shiva Lingam stones carry cultural and spiritual meaning, sourcing and presentation should be handled with additional care. We avoid exaggerated claims and encourage respectful ownership.
What we can promise is that each piece is chosen carefully, with attention to beauty, quality, authenticity, cultural respect and the values at the heart of Enchantress Collective.
Product Details
• Product Name: Shiva Lingam
• Also Known As: Narmada Lingam, Banalinga, Bana Lingam, Shiva Stone, Lingam Stone
• Material: Natural river stone, commonly described as silica-rich stone, chalcedony, jasper or quartz-rich material depending on composition
• Cultural Association: Sacred symbol connected with Lord Shiva in Hindu tradition
• Traditional Source: Narmada River, India
• Chemical Formula: Variable; silica-rich examples are primarily SiO₂ — Silicon Dioxide
• Crystal System: Variable; silica-rich chalcedony and jasper are microcrystalline quartz
• Mohs Hardness: Variable, often approximately 6.5–7 when silica-rich
• Colour: Cream, tan, brown, red-brown, grey, beige, rust, maroon and natural earthy markings
• Transparency: Opaque
• Lustre: Smooth, waxy, earthy to softly polished
• Symbolism: Balance of masculine and feminine energies, fertility, creation, regeneration, sacred union and wholeness
• Feng Shui / Relationship Use: Used symbolically in some modern Feng Shui-inspired practices for marriage strengthening, relationship harmony and balanced partnership energy
• Features: Egg-like or elongated form, natural markings, hand-polished finish, smooth tactile feel, sacred cultural symbolism
• Finish: Natural river-shaped and polished stone, palm stone, altar stone or display piece depending on item
• Quality: Carefully selected for shape, pattern, polish, tactile feel, character and respectful presentation
• Sourcing: Chosen from trusted suppliers with a focus on quality, care, cultural respect and responsible sourcing values
Closing Reflection
Shiva Lingam is a stone of sacred balance.
Its smooth egg-like form speaks of creation, while its natural markings remind us of the feminine principle, the Yoni, the receptive and regenerative force of life. Together, they form a symbol of union, fertility, devotion and wholeness.
Every crystal has a story.
Shiva Lingam’s story is more than geological.
It is cultural, spiritual and sacred to many.
It reminds us that creation is not only the beginning of life. It is also the renewal of love, the strengthening of partnership, the restoration of balance, and the quiet regeneration that happens when two energies meet with respect.
To hold one is to be reminded that beauty is not only something we own or display. Sometimes beauty asks something of us too: respect, humility, curiosity and care.